Family. What does that word mean?
For me I’d say my brothers, sister, mom, stepdad, and grandma. For some, they would not say anything similar. We all have different makeups, so trying to define family is not going to cut it. In fact, this is something that psychologists are struggling with today. They are not concerned that there is not a common family anymore, but they would like to try to find how to define family in order to help those who need it. Once they can understand the complexities that have unveiled themselves, they will be better equipped to be more effective with their patients (see below). If psychologists just assume that family means your two biological parents and any siblings you might have and this is not your case, then it could cause complications. They could ask “is your family bothering you?” If the answer is yes, it could be for a completely different reason than what they understand because you do not have a common family makeup.
This is shown by the Adams-Foster family in The Fosters. The family is comprised of two mothers, one biological son, two hispanic twins, and Callie and Jude, two white children from the foster care system. This is obviously, not your common family makeup, but for them, it is what they call family. Lena had wanted to birth a baby of her own and once she was not able to, she realized that “DNA doesn’t make a family, love does.” This is reality. This is what should be the same for everyone. We all have different amounts of siblings, different kinds of caregiving, different kinds of responsibility, but we should all have one thing in common. We should all be able to find the love that is in our family, no matter how big or small, how similar or diverse the family is.
Family. What does that word mean?
It’s up to you, but I hope it includes love.
Patterson, Terence, and Sexton, Thomas. “Bridging conceptual frameworks: A systemic heuristic for understanding family diversity.” Couple and Family Psychology: Research and Practice 2, no. 4 (2013): 237-245.